I hesitated to mention the drinking when I first started typing, but I'm glad I did now.
Don't hesitate to mention things on here. People can't help you if they don't know the real situation. You are not unique in yours. Trust me on that. We are very similar in our situations and there are others as well.
The more info you share, the more good advice you can get.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...