You did do a lot of things that were wrong.....but don't set out to make her an angel yet. This is a critical part of the R and you could make it or break it. Okay...so you had "the talk" so I hope you will let that go and not CONTINUE with the talk. Don't do it anymore or it will lose its affect on her. Listen to the men here. She "needs" boundaries set in order to respect you. Puppy has been in your shoes and he knows being the "nice guy" won't work. I realize you are trying to see yourself as being considerate and cooperating.....but truth is....you are being a "nice guy" and she's going to walk all over you.
Please take the advise from the men here. You can start now and stick to it and still have a chance, but if you try to make it out to be your fault that she had an affair......or b/c she's rebelling against her parents.....or for any other reason other than she "chose" to do wrong, then you will lose. Both of you have done wrong, however, she was the one unfaithful to the M. You will have to grab hold of the reigns to help direct her along the path or she will stray away forever.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
