DB is a life process, not just a save your marriage process. You have to say detached and taking care of your own happiness no matter what. Detached doesn't mean cold, it just means not expecting the other person to take ownership of your happiness...it means not "owning" what they do.
If GAL is a chore, I guess I have to say you're not choosing stuff you like. GAL activities can also (should also) include things you enjoy doing with H. What would you guys like to try together? Shared experiences build a M (and this is advice I need to take as well...ugh!) But it is HEALTHY to have your own hobbies and activities.
The DB strategies are just good living strategies. I DB the parents of my students, my colleagues, my family, etc. :-)
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
