Divorce not busted

[pigskin]

... Now W has agreed to Retrouvaille with me... So, what do I take away from this, if anything? She is still seeing the IC who is helping her move on, yet she has agreed to the Retro weekend. Am I just being paranoid?
What's going on inside her head? Should I ask?

My wife was going to an IC shortly after her EA started, and a few sessions in, asked if I would go too, and I agreed.

I didn't care for the IC as he too seemed to be focused on helping her decide to move on in the easiest way possible. His tune changed after a couple of joint sessions with us when he heard the changes I was making and my committment to marriage, and he seemed to bring the reconciliation potential back into the picture.

We went to Retro after about 3 of those joint sessions, and my wife canceled the rest. She didn't feel they would offer us anything we weren't already working on.

I also tried to think about what was going on in my wife's head, but if your wife accepts Retro, roll with it. I don't know if my wife was doing it to ensure a cordial split and friendship for the kids' sake, but I made it clear to her that I didn't think we could be friends if she left me, and that I would resent it if she had an ulterior motive for going through what is a big time and emotional commitment. That hurt her, but I think it also made her motivated to give Retro a chance to work.