Her trust: He wants to be trusted, that he will do the right thing, that he can make the right choices, that he will be faithful, that he is a man of character, that he is a good father.
Her respect: He wants her to respect him for his accomplishments as a man, a husband, and a father.
Her femininity: This includes her looks, as well as her attitude. He doesn't want her to wear the pants, nor to try to (except, see next item below).
Her resiliance and strength: He DOES want to know she is strong and will not crumble in a crisis, in case she has to carry the load for a bit if he has a temporary setback.
Her support: He wants to come home and feel like she is welcoming him, not ready to jump down his throat with complaints or a to-do list. He wants to overhear her compliment him to her friends or his.
Her guidance: Men do (secretly, inside, shhh, don't tell anyone) recognize that women have strengths where men have weaknessess, and they do want her to gently guide him and be his life coach at times when it is needed. They want this to be done in a fair and honest way, not to be used as an excuse for her to be demanding or try to change him.
Her sexuality: Men want women to be comfortable with their sexuality and to shine it upon them like a ray of light. They want her to sexually respond to him and to desire him, and for her to show him these things. Men do not want a woman who is only present during sex "for him", they want her to want it for herself. They also secretly want to believe she "only wants him" and no other, so if she can somehow create this thought in his mind, he will really love it.
Her receptiveness: A man will pursue a woman he loves and he enjoys the pursuit. In return, he needs her to be receptive to his pursuit.
Her understanding of his man needs: A man needs down time, he needs to pull back sometimes and head to his cave. He needs his woman to understand this and not chase behind him, trusting that he will come back when he is refreshed.
Her patience: If he messes up, a man needs his woman to be understanding and to be patient with him. If she is patient with him (but not a doormat), he is more likely to get better over time with certain behaviors.
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Of course, many of the above go both ways and a woman wants the same...but SP asked us to tackle what men want in women, so that's my submission.
