When it comes to sex, men are like microwaves, women are crock pots.
When it comes to emotional sharing, women are like hummingbirds and men are turtles.
It comes down to patience, respect and knowing the other's needs.
*hugs*
Here's my $.02 regarding women's attractiveness to men.
There are obviously 2 sides - physical and emotional. Most of the posts to date were regarding the physical side - stay in shape, dress attractively, don't just be "a mom" etc. I agree, but focus on the other side.
So many of the posts about how men stay attractive focus on Strength, Assurance, and Self Confidence - lose that, and you lose attractiveness to Women. I think that for men, the attraction is the flip side. Men are attracted to Women who make them feel strong, capable, and self-confident.
I think this is why there is such a stereotype of men having affairs with their secretaries.
The secretary looks up to her boss, she compliments him, she helps him get prepared so that when he goes to a stressful meeting he looks good and feels confident. In his relationship with her (still strictly professional) he feels strong, healthy and confident. He can take on the world. Then he goes home...
When he get's home, the story is reversed. Why are you late?! You haven't done X yet! The Y is a mess!. The W may have valid reasons for being angry, but the constant criticism makes the H feel like a failure. His self confidence is eroded. He feels weak.
So it may make men seem shallow, but I believe men are attracted to women who show open admiration for the man, belief in his abilities and honest appreciation for what he does for the family. Conversely, angry criticism is a real turn-off.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
