I have similar views on M and D K4D. I'm not Catholic but come from a very conservative denomination that was definately 'until death to us part' and D and re-marriage was a big no no. My mom and dad D when I was 3 - that was one model for M I had. The other was my Gma and Gpa who stayed together for years in a miserable marriage.
I don't know what any of that means - but I know I don't want either of them. Sounds like you're the same way.
I admire your resolve and hope to gain some myself.
