Thanks for the well wishes. Been trying to catch up on this.
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We got home and watched a movie together. I then told her I understand her need for space if she would like for me to sleep in a seperate room. She smile and said "No, let's go to bed."
I realize everyone is different, but it seems odd that a woman who is talking about getting a D, still wants to sleep in the same bed with her H. I'm just saying "most" WAW's don't want to do that.
I do think she's confused about your changes and doesn't understand why you are doing them "now". Maybe it is just that you seem "different"....not scary. There are several reasons that she could be in the state of mind she's in. I think most of it started out as health related.....like depression, hormonal, etc. That can easily lead to other problems. That MC certainly didn't help matters!
She needs some hope that her feelings toward you can change, but all you can do is to continue to show her how you've improved. Don't discuss it and don't talk about how good the M can be, etc. Stay away from R talks if at all possible. The more you are focused on the M problems, the more she is going to be seeing the worst in you. When you stop thinking about the MR all the time, then she will see the new & improved you. That is when she'll start to fall in love with you. Something to shoot for, wouldn't you say?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
