I just don't know. For now, I guess all that can be done is to just let it ride and not poke, prod or pick at it. If and when she's ready to say what is on her mind, she will. My cousin is fairly certain XW wants out of the mess she made but is trapped with OM financially and by way of the agreements.
She will speak when she's ready and, depending on her degree of stubbornness, you may never hear those words. She sounds like she's miserable, yes, but you know you can't fix it for her. She has to make her way out of it all on her own and in her own time. The more you analyze her actions, the more stuck you will be.
I'm going ask something that I'm sure you've thought about, I'm curious what your answer will be though.
Let's say she calls you today and says something to the effect of, "I've made so many mistakes and so many bad decisions but I love you and want our family together. Will you take me back?" I feel I know your answer would be yes, however, with the financial and living situation you both are in would that even be possible right now? The possibility of ressurecting the R depends on the stressors associated with it. The stressors you are facing now would not magically disappear if she returned. Could you handle that?
Just bringing up the practicalities....I know it's not very romantic of me, but that's the realist in me coming out. I've seen a lot of people fail because they don't look at the big picture.
Hugs to you dday!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
