Well the H gets a C- for attention to my birthday!
No card, he did get me a gift. He didn't make sure my sons had a card or gift for me (nothing!). My oldest son's girlfriend brought me a cake from the bakery she works at. My H did order dinner out for all of us from my favorite restaurant.
Now - I will say that he has been working a ton of hours and now of course he and everyone else at his shop are sick. However, you'd think if you're trying to put your marriage back together - even if you're not feeling well - you'd put a little more effort into it!
His birthday is next Friday. Guess I'll have to show him how to do it!
I'm leaving this afternoon for the lake with my two best friends. Really looking forward to it! I plan on not calling while I'm gone. I'm really just disappointed with him right now and we've yet to have any kind of meaningful discussion.
I had a WONderful one, thanks! Both of my daughters came over (along with my two sons who live with us), and my in-laws, so I had my entire family here for an incredible home-cooked meal from the fetching Mrs. Puppy. Great gifts, great fellowship, and TONS of well-wishes thruout the day on FB, e-mail, by phone, cards, etc.
Feeling truly blessed!
Puppy
P.S. I'd've given him a "D+". You're way too kind.
You're probably right - I was too generous with the grade. I'm trying to cut him a little slack because of his situation this week but I'm finding it really hard.
It's pretty sad when your co-workers and friends do a better job of acknowledging your birthday! I received 2 cards at work, several e-mails, and lots of Happy Birthdays on FB as well. I'm really disappointed that he didn't do a better job with my sons - making sure that they at least bought me a card.
Well we'll see how he responds to the no contact this weekend. He has to know that he didn't do a very good job. If not, this should surely get the message across!
Glad you had a great birthday. I still can't get over the coincidence of us having the same birthday!
Had a nice weekend with the girls at the lake - until I got home.
I didn't call the H all weekend. He called when we were on our way home to let me know they'd be over at his sister's.
He was pleasant enough when they got home (I'd been on a cleaning spree). He threw me off and said he wanted to go to the lake next weekend. Now keep in mind - Friday is his birthday. He said you've been there 3 weekends in a row. Why are you surprised having I been going all along? I said I thought you'd want to spend your birthday with me. He said it's just another day. You spent your birthday weekend with your girlfriends.
I was texting with one of them last night and sent a What do you think message? to my H inadvertently. So I told him it was about whether to start going to counseling every other week. I should have let things alone. But I brought up the fact that we've still not talked. So of course he thinks we talked about him all weekend and that know I think I'm not to blame for everything because of talking with them all weekend.
He got very angry and said I don't know what there is to talk about. That's why I quit going to counseling - we kept rehashing the same thing - beating a dead horse. If we're going to have to keep talking about everything every night then I'm done. There was another comment where he said maybe I should just move out.
He also said why can't we just take it one day at a time? There'll be times when we take two steps forward only to take three steps back.
So now I'm worried that I'm back to square one - that he's rethinking whether or not to work on the marriage.
I asked him what he wants for his birthday and he said there's nothing I need or want. So now I don't know what to do about that. Initiated s this morning and was turned down - not sure why I did that.
So now I don't know what to do! It also came across to me last night that he was saying that he thinks I'm to blame for everything and I'm the one who needs to keep on working on things. I haven't been able to sleep all night and just feel sick to my stomach!
So I guess I just go back to living my life the best I can. Avoid all relationship talk and see what happens?
Hi M25, is your H as "solution orientated" person? I wondered since he thinks continually "talking" about something and not resolving the problem gets nowhere.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sorry that's what happens with lack of sleep - he talked said maybe he should move out at one point. I initiated the sex. After I blogged here, I got ready to leave and he was up. I just looked at him and said X, I'm sorry. He said you don't have anything to be sorry for!
He truly thinks he's tried with me in the past and I really think he feels that I'm to blame that this is my problem.
I'm totally confused! He said he doesn't believe divorce is the best choice. But I don't get this let's just take it one day at a time - you work on what you need to work on and I'll work on what I need to work on. I can't make any long-term plans.
