Thanks Kittyfish - thats me all over - just don't do it enough!
I hear your heads up about the cash. Thanks for that from someone who "was there". I really feel that she does need it and I'm not going to make her desperate by begging for it. What sort of a villain do you take me for?
Two reasons:
1. Hope it will take some of the attraction away of staying with her friend (not so reliant on her any more).
2. I think this will prove that I'm not so "tight fisted" as I used to be. Nothing she is doing with the cash is frivolous - she's becoming very level headed with cash. Working out it no longer grows on trees. What was I doing in the past that made her see me as "moaning" about money? Will put my thinking cap on for that one.
I also see that she's no longer using the "or else" anymore. No threats of going to the maintenance court. And there are what I consider to be heartfelt thanks for helping. In fact the money she was "demanding" has progressively dropped from R3700 to R3000 and now R2500. Where are we going with this?
This was the one I got this morning after the care pack arrived:
"Hi Ken, would just like to say thank you for the money, airtime and cables. I really do appreciate it. Have a nice day and enjoy the weekend"
The cables are USB extension cables - she couldn't charge her iPod or play music for all this time - must have driven her NUTS. She loves her music.
I'm going to be bumping into her tonight at the local pub. It's prize draw night!
1st prize: Meat Pack 2nd prize: Bottle of Bells (W favourite) 3rd prize: R300 (about $45 in real money)
I'm going to do a few things. Greet friend and thank her for making yesterday turn a great day into a fabulous day - really enjoyed the chat and hope I helped.
Buy myself a drink that I never would have - Whiskey and Coke. That IS going to surprise her. I may even ask if I can buy her a drink, order two of the same and split the coke :-)
I've also got something in reserve. I have the chance to go up country to a wine farm and stay over the weekend. This would be a problem - we have two dogs. I'm going to tell her I've been asked and want to go (another 180), ask if she wants to join in and if not if she would look after the dogs for the weekend.
