Thanks for that, I think those are good points. Regardless of how angry I am about anything else, that is completely on the back burner, I just want to focus on what I can do/or maybe what I shouldnt do/push, that will help in him getting well again.

I have left the msg today and I wont be visiting since he doesnt want me to/wont let me, so my 'plan' is to just wait for him to get back in touch, I'm pretty sure he will before the end of the day bc he told me he would yesterday. He has assured me that if anything happened he has told everyone around him to make sure to call me right away so I know what is going on, even told OW directly.(she must of loved that crazy ) That is such a mess! but I cant really focus on that part right now.

I want to be the friend that he needs right now, I want to listen, validate and generally reassure him, if only he would talk to me and let me.

Thanks for the tip, I will do some re-reading, it will keep my mind busy. I almost wonder if I would of been better at work today, now I have all this time to think. its driving me crazy.


Me-27
H-28
M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs
No kids
B 1/09
S 2/09

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