Yeah in the end it is my call. Knowing what the right thing to do is the hardest part. I know that she will be contacting me sometime next week as there are some things at the house that she needs next week. I will see how it goes with her at that time to see if I should stay dark.
Is there a way to use a 3rd party to help facilitate her access to the house? I'd STRONGLY recommend STAYING DARK with her at this point.