Right on the nose about taking everything thrown at you. And BOY did I get things thrown at me.
Advice I got was to listen, validate and a stack of other things. I really wish my W would vent! I feel she's still in "numb" mode but getting there (check thread in newcomers - Ray of Hope).
Funny - but I find in retrospect that I was the same type of person that you were. Notice how many "was" words in our posts. All that guff is in the past. My faults has been digested and taken on board and fixed there. I don't feel any need to keep rehashing the past. Dealing with it with my W is another matter however. I'll deal with that when it happens.
It's the future that matters now to all of us.
It's up to our significant others to find it in themselves to join us in partnership for that future.
All we can do is soldier on and make ourselves into a "new and desirable" person that is simply irresistible :-).
No more "woe is me" and thrashing ourselves for past wrongs. Deal with what we need to do to us. Make sure others see those changes and it WILL get back to the "other half".
