K4D Rising #3

[FaithfulH]

The alarming thing to me was that when you look at the success stories they have posted, its about 90% husbands returning and 10% wives returning from doing a general scan of what is posted in the success section.

Hey, Kev! You sound great....and I'm glad my dear friend 25yrsmlc is helping you too! What I think is cool is that her 2x4's seem to be covered in fluffy cotton. You know....she swings them hard but somehow when they smack you they don't hurt you too bad....in fact, they do you a lot of good!

Regarding your comment that I highlighted at the top of this post...this doesn't mean that women don't choose to come back. Here's my take....look at this board and do the same exercise. How many women are here? Lots! I think the reason the stats play out the way that you saw on rejoiceministries (and here) is that when women leave the marriage, most men run off quickly in search of their next R. I have been fortunate to meet many men who believe that God is leading them to do just the opposite. Praise Him for that! So, the other side of the equation is that when MEN leave the marriage, I think you find far more faithful women who will stand for however long it takes. And thank God I have met many of those women here as well. So, don't be so quick to look at those stats as simply "women don't come back as often as men from a broken marriage". I actually have had the privilege of attending 2 of Bob & Charlyne Steinkamp's meetings in Pompano Beach FL. On both occasions, there were roughly 40 women and 5 men. Where were the men whose W's left the R? I'm guessing they were already in the next R! BTW, I think the stats would show that a higher percentage of W actually file for D than men which would lead you to expect the numbers of men in one of those sessions should actually by slightly higher than women.

You sound good to me! BTW, I like 25's idea about the anniversary acknowledgement with a focus on your girls. The KEY: NO EXPECTATIONS of your W! Keep the faith!