KvinMT,
Sorry/glad you're here.
I've only skimmed your sitch and I have only two quick comments for now since it's so late (early?):
Patience and more patience. Then patience.
I noticed the drinking references. May I suggest Rational Recovery by Jack Trimpy. His approach resonated with me more than any other. 3 1/2 years for me with no effort, no problem, no looking back.
Talk to you soon.
Courage.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac