I see your point. I see it very clearly. I agree with 99% of what you are saying. What I don't agree with is that she's happier now. She simply is not. OK, maybe she is happIER, but a long ways away from happy, that's for sure. So, I'm not so sure she has no incentive to try and improve her own situation. As a matter of fact, I think that's what she's been trying to do for the past couple of months.
The other thought I had when reading your comment is: so if we do go our separate ways, then we'll both be unhappy (even though right now I think I would get over it pretty quickly). So that kind of sucks too.
As far as how I see her changes, yes, they are random and inconsistent, and I certainly don't see them as planned. I think she's looking for ways to make herself happy and what I see is her probing around, trying different things.
I don't know TG. I guess there are always 2 ways of viewing things, negative and positive... She's told me at the time of the bomb, that she had to deal with my depression for 2 yrs. So, when she asked me last December how long I was going to "wait", I told her that since she has had to deal with me for 2 yrs, I should give her the same time (that would be the end of this calendar year). I also told her that I wasn't waiting. That I am carrying on with all aspects of my life, except starting a new R.
I really appreciate you stopping by! Your comments have started some new thinking and I needed that! Don't wait another 4 months again!
