Thanks for your kind responses. It always seems when we let our negative emotions run the show we are headed for trouble. My therapist thinks I should journal my angry thoughts and emotions because he agrees that H isn't ready to face what he did last year to me or to the kids.
Meanwhile he continues to have this black bag that he carries around in the event that he doesn't sleep here but every night he is here. I guess he is still afraid to commit to being home for good end of story. But slowly the cloths and shoes and dreams are returning.
The man that used to be is back straightening up the garage etc. For one year he didn't lift a finger to punish me when he was gone........
