abbe I'm glad to read that you can think in a clear way and things are looking better. As for dates, the best thing really is to create new memories to replace those painful ones. WE will never completely forget those awful times, but once we start making up new memories they pretty much take the space of the old ones. Other things I did were making a scrap book of all positive things happening since the affair was over. I added every single thing, from movie and concert tickets, restaurant menus, little notes and cards, pictures. Anything that reminded me that things were going forward and that my relationship was being worked on. Then when - as it always happens - I had moments when I was feeling down, I would just get that scrap book and it was easier to shut out those painful memories. I guess anything that works is worth a try. Ech person has different things that can help take painful memories of our minds. Hope you find what works best for you soon Hugs nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
