One hard thing lately is hitting our anniversary dates of when he was gone last year acting like a total weirdo. This is right around the time when he was really really deep in his crises. It is hard for me because I have flash backs of those times each time we hit a new even.
Any thought out there on how to quiet your mind when it is becoming destructive??
Abbe
I can completely relate to this...I'm at the year mark now (mainly sept - nov) of the worst part of h's crisis last year....ugh.
Whenever I find myself lapsing into negative memories, I quickly replace the bad image with a good one and repeat some positive thought to myself like "my h is loving. I can trust him. I can be loving to him, too".
Whatever comes to mind that's really positive.
I'm actually looking forward to the anniversary of DDay so that I can at least have year memories of DB'ing and rebuilding!!!!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
