Over the Shock and GALing 6

[AlexEN]

My C recommended against it strongly. He said "you may not think it or realize it now, but mediation opens up a whole new range of emotions that you may not be ready to deal with. Don't do it unless you are both REALLY ready to finalize and D.

Hmmm. I'd defer to you and your comfort with the wisdom of his advice, but is opening up a new range of emotions necessarily a bad thing? [Any psychologists out there?]

And is the second part really true? Don't we have a case study or two here where, as I understand it, it was among the ways in which @Coach led? Maybe I'm remembering incorrectly, but I thought all the while @Coach was "leading" the legal stuff was going on in the background.

What if those emotions would otherwise remain repressed... As long as one's dealing with emotions, maybe rolling 'em all out would be more telling than leaving them simmering under the surface for the next time things aren't perfect... And, if it doesn't work, wouldn't you rather be further down the path?

Do you think she's going just to go (and so she can say she "tried") or because she WANTS to make an effort? I know it's mind-reading, but what does your gut tell you?