What do husbands want from their wives? From my husband's pov (although again a limited sample):
1)Don't start looking like a 'mom' when you have kids. Many times I would comment on how his sister, in her late 30s, would get dressed up in cute jeans, trendy top, jewelry, just to go to dinner with the family. She wore (wears) the same size as her high school daughter. He said, "I think it is awesome that she always looks good when she goes out, even if it is just with family."
Also, I gained weight after we had kids. And I lost it back, but was in no particular hurry. After the first baby I cut my hair short in an easy 'mom' style and wore a basic uniform of jeans and v-neck tshirts or polos. That is NOT a sexy look!
And I am sure I will catch hell from the independent women out there for that last part. Even Dr. Phil has told a husband or two, "Your wife got that body from giving you your beautiful children!!"
True? Yes. BUT, truth is, physical attraction is part of the game. If wives were smaller when they got married, dressed well, wore makeup, etc.--and all of that changed after the kids came along--well, then you can see where hubby may have a case of WTF???And yes the same is true for husbands who let themselves go but SP asked about expectations for wives.
In short, my husband wanted a wife who: 1)Continued to look good, carry herself well
2)Supported/encouraged/believed in him like she did in the early years, instead of questioning/doubting/nagging every little decision he made or dollar he spent
3)Let him take the lead on the big goals for the family
4)Spoke highly of him when with friends, rather than belittling him or making light of his accomplishments and pointing out his flaws in some attempt to be humorous
4)Continued to have her own opinion on many things. Calling at work every day and asking "What do YOU want for dinner?", deferring at the video store "Whatever movie YOU want", etc is also unappealing. So it is a fine line between trusting your H to lead and completely losing your own sense of identity in the process.
5)In tandem with #4, a wife who continues to have her own friends, activities, and hobbies OUTSIDE of her husband and children (see GAL for further info.).
OK that was just off the top of my head. BBJs views do not necessarily represent the views of womankind. And, btw, we women can write a book on what we want from men. You men need to speak up and be honest about what you want from us...
