Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Update after this evenings MC session:

The session was relatively calm. We brought the C up to speed on the events of the last 24 hours, including that I had proposed starting mediation.

Things discussed and noted:

W is unhappy and blames the unhappiness on the R.

She equates "Working on the R" with "Committing to stay in the R for the rest of her life"

She said she does not want to get a D, but can't commit or even think about committing to stay in the M forever. (my thought bubble "I'm not asking you to commit to the M forever, just to work on it...")

She is ready to go to Retrouvaille.

There is a change in both my W and our C.

When I first brought up Retro, the C was lukewarm and didn't know what it was. His point of view was "No point if both parties aren't open to it"

My W's initial point of view was "No Way", and then Recently "I really don't want to, but I guess we are going"

Now they both have seemed to grab onto it like a lifeline.

The C has become almost a cheerleader for it - along the lines of "Come on guys, you only have to make it two months until Retrouvaille! You can do it!"

My W is now saying "I don't really know if it can help, but I'm curious to see how it goes"

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The registration form and check are now in the mail to Retrouvaille.