I am speaking from knowlege. An affair can and often does eliminate alimony in my state. My coach says to hold on to that handle and do not tell her you will not use it. So I am holding to that line.
W made a IC appointment for next Friday and we have a MC appointment on Tuesday. Those seem to be small steps. We will see.
W came home tonight and was nice momentairly then seemed to get angry and distant again and is just hanging out in the guest room downstairs away from me.
She told me because I make all the money she can't leave so she will just stay and be miserable for the rest of her life.
I spoke to our MC about her suicide threats. He said he would have her IC all her if need be, but to ask how she is feeling and let him know what if I would like him to have IC call.
Talked with her briefly and she doesn't seem like she is thinking of hurting herself. Most likely just escalating behavior.
I get the funny feeling she is going to act out soon though. Wouldn't be surprised if she tries to contact OM to see what I will do.
Me 38 / W 37 M 14 yrs S 11/S8 First Bomb: 3/6/2009 EA Second Bomb: 6/4/2009 PA Same House Separate Rooms
