We could fill up threads upon threads about what is desirable masculinity and femininity and everyone's defn' would be different. We'd probably find major themes that apply in most sitches but even those would fall apart crossing certain social and cultural lines.

Short of burning up text and time, my immediate takeaway is that something initially brought a couple together. Those proper XX and XY roles were in play. Then over time they disappeared.

"Strong Man" quit going to the gym long ago and got flabby from drinkin' beer.

"The Playah" was last seen carting a diaper bag and pushing a stroller through DisneyLand.

"The Princess"...well we all know what happened to her. (actually I don't know - use your own imagination)


It's up to us to figure out what we (Him and Her) lost, what changed, and why. Who were we? Who are we?

"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh