It's understandable. We all detach at our own pace. My wife has been mostly really GOOD to me (no repeat infidelity, some conflicts the past two years, but overall we get along very well), and I'm JUST NOW overcoming my co-dependent tendencies, and getting un-enmeshed. To where I feel like I'd LIKE to be with her, but I don't HAVE to be.
With someone doing what your husband has done, I would think the pace would be faster, but everyone's different. Just keep doing what you're doing -- you've come a LONG way, if you go back and read your old posts.
