Stop rationalizing and justifying your W's behavior. Her A is NOT acceptable. As a fellow Catholic, you KNOW that.
IMO, something was missing in your W's life. She needed to fill a void and along came OM and God. Chance/fate/circumstance brought these two things into your W's life at the same time but they are mutually exclusive.
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10