Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

I think I need a reality check and here is the perfect place for it.

I received a text from H today. It said "could you ever take me back?" After a bit, I wrote back "yes."

Later, I go with H to store (he asked me to go and indicated he wanted me to go so I did). I tell H I'm tired, H says too tired to ML? I say I'm a bit confused about his text from earlier. H says he needed to know if I'd be willing to take him back. H spoke about how confused he is, how he can't sleep, how everything is wrong in his life and he just can't function. I listened, said I am sorry you are feeling this way. H said I have nothing to be sorry for, he is the cause of it. H said he's worried about me and S. H said life is too hard this way. H said if I would have said I would not take him back he would have left. Now he just doesn't know. H said he has ignored calls from OW for the past two days. (I have no way of confirming as he changed the account password)

After dinner, I commented on going to bed early. H asked to ML. I indicated what I said the other night is still relevant and until I know he wants to work on M and there is not a third person involved could we then discuss it. H responded - are you talking about the emotional stuff? I said yes. H said "Got it."

I feel like today may have been a step in the positive direction BUT I keep replaying the saying "believe less than half of what they do and none of what they say."