Yep, another WAW - in last resort

[lonelywolf]

She said she almost left for the reasons she's leaving now: My debt and my anger.

She has a temper as bad as mine, but in either case I really shouldn't get angry. I am getting anger management counseling now, which I should have done a long time ago. And I'm paying down my debt - I actually have about a third the debt I did 5 years ago, but she's deathly afraid of it. She actually let it slip that she almost called off our engagement when she found out I had student loans (and her parents tried to convince her to do so).

This time, what I think did it, was that since I earned the money, she let me pay the bills. She was never fully aware of all the credit card balances (other than that they existed). Just before she declared she was leaving me, she asked me for access to the account balances online. While at first, it seemed a little unusual, I acquiesced. Then she went through every charge for the last six months and told me that she found $2100 dollars in frivolous charges. She didn't ask me to explain them, and when I tried, she refused to listen.

Though that may have been her looking for an excuse.

I am going to pay off the credit cards completely by the end of the year (barring some medical or other serious emergency). Debt is stupid anyway, and I've relied on those damn cards too much. I need to live within my means more. And some of those purchases were frivolous (though not all).