Don't let her get to you with her comments. It took me a long time to get over them and they took a terrible toll on my self-esteem. What it comes down to is that they are afraid and are saying anything hurtful as a defensive mechanism.
When my W kept saying she was afraid of me because she had never seen me so angry before after I found out about her A, I asked her why did she think I was so mad? She wouldn't answer, just saying how she was afraid of me. She couldn't get to say that it was because of her A and that she cheated. She still has never admitted to it.
Just take it one step at a time. What are your goals as per DR?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
