Yep, another WAW - in last resort

[lonelywolf]

I think the main problems she had were that she still somewhat had the attitude of her parents towards *those* types of people. My parents loved her, but she never seemed quite comfortable around our blue-collar lifestyle. Debt bothered her, but rather than try to work it out, she just nagged and yelled. She has never wanted for anything growing up, because her "upper middle class" (but really upper class) parents are loaded.

I think the main thing was there was no clear communication between us - we both got angry, but never really resolved any of the issues we got angry about. We both were and are terrible at communication.

And it wasn't quickly - she said she's almost left me twice in the last two years, but decided against it. This summer, with her parents (she sort of does have an OM - her parents are basically a sugar daddy unit at this point) basically provided an easy way for her to finally leave me.

I had to communicate with her today over finances, but I kept it neutral and avoided saying "I love you." I did let her know my goals, but I made it clear I was doing this to save myself rather than our marriage (if it does save the marriage - great. But I have to become a better man anyway).