"Recently she has come to "You have been so horrible and I have been so miserable for so long and now it is too late. Too Little too late! You can read all of the self help books you want but it won't make a difference!"
My W said some of that in the beginning. Now I just tell her that if she was that miserable, she could have just filed for D and that if she really didn't like the M, why bother "hiding" the OP? If the M was dead, she should have been flauting it. She shuts up after I say that.
She hasn't criticized any of my reading, even though I leave the books around. If she did, I'd just shrug and say "the books are for me not for you".
One thing I read in another website's MLC column was that a former MLC WAS said that when she was heading out the door to leave, her H told her "It's your decision to go or stay, but I am asking you to stay." At that point she realized that it was HER decision along with all the consequences. She then decided to stay.
I've used that line to my W and she hasn't made a move to leave at all.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
