My old thread (Pure and simple, every time) seems to have been knocking about forever (three months!) so I thought I'd start a new one.
Today is 2 years since the bomb. I noticed it incidentally when I checked the date because the solicitor contacted me to say H was going to receive the D papers tomorrow. I e-mailed him to tell him and he thanked me for sorting them out and said he appreciated it (!). That was followed by several paragraphs of him telling me what he's doing at the moment (looking for a new place to live). Enough said. I'm sad to get D'd but I don't suppose it was ever going to be a joyous thing to do. H has to acknowledge receipt within 2 weeks.
I went on a date last night with a guy who I met on Saturday night. He was sweet (and very keen) but he didn't give me butterflies. Still, it was good experience, the food was delicious and he was a real gentleman which is always a nice thing to see.
It seems the way of things that sometimes nothing happens for ages and then everything happens at once. I booked my holiday yesterday so am excited about that- it's over what would have been my wedding anniversary so it takes care of what I would have done to mark the day (or not). I haven't been on a sunny holiday for a while so a great side-effect is getting to buy a new wardrobe of holiday clothes. Hurray!
Ummm.... I think that's about it for now.
L. xx
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
i love the name of your new thread. Ibiza is a huge party. You'll have a blast! I know the anniversary days are rough. Glad you had a nice date. Even if there were no butterflies, it gives hope. good luck
Hey Lisa, nice to hear you are doing ok. Wow, 2 years since the bomb, I hadnt thought of that, mine is in a few weeks too. Such a long time we've all been here, but what good friends we made.
Reading what you said about his email back to you I just thought "what an *rse" in my head there.. perhaps thats unfair! But really, he pursued you and flipflopped and held hands and snogged you and cried and on and on and on it went and then to just peter out and THANKYOU for sorting the D out. Its very sad. At least he did though and like you say, it was never going to be easy. I think your sitch is one of the ones that makes the least sense hey.
Hugs to you, Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I'm sorry about the D stuff, it's pooey to have to go through that. I guess h probably doesn't know what to say. I have found, in my case, that if it is anything remotely personal or emotional that comes up then the shutters go down.
Your date sounds fun I love it when a man is gentlemanly. No matter who they are it still makes me feel special. Courtesy is a wonderful thing!
So, your going to be an Ibiza babe! How exciting! I went at the end of my A levels but that was more a drunkenm clubby type thing. I think I went to see some of the island one day and it was gorgeous but I spent the other days sleeping. I regret that now and really want to go back sometime. That being said, the clubs were amazing as was sunset at Cafe Del Mar.
When are you off? If you fancy any proms this year, apart from the one we have in the diary, let me know.
Thanks for visiting me. It's always lovely to see you! Welcome rinserepeat- it's lovely to see a new person on my thread too.
I've had a lovely week- done lots of holiday shopping and I've been out quite a lot which is nice. A couple of the girls from the office and I even went out for lunch together one day this week, which was a real change for them. I'm gradually formenting revolution in that office and trying to liven them up!
On Monday CEO and I went to yoga. He's so funny- remembered asking me to go with him the week before and then texted me to remind me on the Monday morning. I got there early and when he arrived he walked in all excited and called me over to him. Then he revealed this huge rose bush that he'd bought me. It was so sweet- he was so excited to give them to me and the roses are gorgeous. They're currently sitting in a pot in my bathroom but I'm going to plant them in BFFs garden next weekend. In exchange for the roses he wanted me to take him out for lunch, which I did. That was really funny because he accidentally made an overtly sexual comment and then when I looked surprised (I'm not easily shocked but this was slightly unexpected) he spent 10 minutes talking constantly through changing subjects to try and cover it up. He's so funny and infuriating and hot and there's still nothing official going on.
The guy I saw last week has been texting me a bit. It's quite sweet that he's making such an effort and he's asked me if I want to go dancing with him tomorrow afternoon. I think it'd be fun, but am not sure about going because I don't think he'd ever be more than a friend.
Yesterday I had lunch with H- he was helping me choose and buy an iPod and was very excited about it. He was really helpful and it was really nice having lunch, catching up and then going to the shops. He prolonged lunch by asking me for a coffee after we'd finished the buying, and then an unusual thing happened..... he invited himself over to our (my?) flat for dinner one night either next week or the week after.
I was flabbergasted because firstly he's only been here 3 times since he moved out (that's 2 years!), and secondly we haven't eaten together in a home setting since he moved out, and thirdly he suggested it. I said yes, that it'd be nice and he said he'd let me know when he was in this neck of the woods. I guess we'll see what happens. I don't think it means anything about reconciliation or him wanting to come home because we also talked about emptying our things out of storage. But then, he didn't refer to the D papers at all either, so I don't know if he's ackowledged service yet. I guess I'll find out next week as his deadline is Thursday. Al- you're right that my H is incredibly confusing. He even said to me himself yesterday that I probably know how bad he is at making decisions! It was tempting to say that he'd definitely made some bad ones but I didn't; maybe he's realising himself that he did.
Men are like buses- nothing for ages and then 4 come along at once.
I'm excited to hear what's going on in your world! The rosebush sounds wonderful, and I'm smiling thinking about you and CEO in yoga class together. I'm glad that you're doing so many fun things!!!
yes, H *IS* really confusing, I have no idea what to make of this one. maybe he is is craving peas and he knows that since you make them an average of... once a year that having dinner at your place will "maximize" his chance of eating peas??
I love it when a man is gentlemanly. No matter who they are it still makes me feel special. Courtesy is a wonderful thing!