What a weekend...

[AlexEN]

Sara,

Echoing what A&K just said, our "truths" are different.

W's story is that we grew apart over time and weren't "connecting" the way married people "should" and, as a result, she doesn't love me the way she did when we got married. Her "truth" is that it was years and years of me taking her for granted and the culmination of "adult issues" having nothing to do with them. I have somehow held her back and it's time for her to do what she always should have done. That articulation, in the eyes of a child, is probably quite vague. She swears up and down that it isn't about OM2 and that that was "in her mind", but that she still needs to move on.

My "truth" is that, yes, WE took each other for granted, putting the children and other things in front of us, but it was by no means a toxic marriage. We EACH contributed to the "distancing"; we each always had to be "right", so arguments were rarely settled. I was distracted by my work; she felt trapped as a SAHM. She became distracted by the idea of building her dream house; I felt trapped having to work harder to make sure we could afford it. OUR priorities were out-of-whack. [The loooooooong version is in my very first posts back in November 2008].

But, can either of us articulate why the result SHOULD be a divorce? Dunno...