Thanks, Bill. I had thought about it that way, but it is not something I like: to me it seems he prefers not giving her pain and hurting me... Or he does not dare face what he has done: wimpy. It is a no win situation. And for stability: it has lasted 5 months so far... are we going for a million years? What is the world record? Is this an olympic sport?

To be fair to him: she has to pay her DD college tuition (OK my H pays for it) and has no license to practice in TX (she is a massage therapist, physical therapist or something). When she and I spoke about her future (she had just discovered that yes, my H had been using her and had never even started the D we were supposed to be going through. Though she had apparently suspected that for a long time... ) she told me she was going to renew her license in her home state and go back there (which would take her 6 months more or less). But what self-respecting woman would remain in this kind of situation. I know: bad question, I am still here

Anyway: example of my crazyness and his can do no good yesterday. H ends work in less than 4 h and even goes grocery shopping and for takeout. We spend the evening at home, watching DVDs (Bill you'd love our new TV) and I fall sort of asleep (do not rent 'Solaris', unless it is as a sleep remedy). Wake up and H is not there. He is in the study talking through his cell phone (not our home phone, despite poor reception). He has to go and do some more work. He offers to take us with him (in my car), drop us at B&N on his way, and pick us up when he finishes. He even calls me from work before coming back! And here I am thinking it was some elaborate scheme to see OW! He cannot win, can he? And this morning he left really early, before breakfast because we had planned to go dinosaur hunting later. But it is raining like crazy, so my ever-spinnig mind asks itself why did he leave so early? Where is he?

Thanks God I did not tell him anything and the posting is keeping me from paging him.

See, Bill, I knew the elephant would follow you home one way or the other

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"