Thanks guys, I love your advice. Especially since I raided Victoria's Secret last november and I discovered what a great PMA uplift it is (even when we lived apart: sexy underwear makes me feel very well ).

As to my D, I may use her paintings and pictures but I do not want to take her there. My H used to leave her at OW's house while we both were working on Sundays, and OW had her calling her Mom since she saw herself as her stepmother. I do not think my H realized how much our little girl understood of what was going on. He stopped taking her there when my poor and innocent 3 y/o girl told OW very proudly: 'I am a very big girl, because I sleep alone in my room. Mommy is a baby: she has to sleep with Daddy'. OW confronted H and he feigned fury saying HE could not believe I would sleep with OM in our bed!!!! The gall!

It is a very disgusting story and it makes me sick to think of it. OW had the 'cojones' to give me the Christmas presents she had for my girl with a label saying 'from Mom.' To be fair to her, however, I do believe she loves my D in her way.

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"