I think that it is a fine line with someone who has expressed such apprehension. And again, I think Coach can help. But, this should all feel do-able. Does that make sense?
The D talk is just more of the same. You made it clear you are ready to end this nonsense. I think that emanates without you having to rehash.
H and I had many of those convos where I was direct but always affirming that I get where he's at and I am prepared to D and x, y, z...I just think it sort of reminds over and over that there is that other option...she knows that by now. Your tone and demeanor and the words you already spoke can reinforce that you are ready to TCB...I'm sorry, I wish I could articulate this better. Optimally, she will see and feel that you can and will follow through on changing your circumstances with or without her.
I'm going to stop until I can phrase this succinctly and more clearly.
