Divorce Busting Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus (this is the one I should have read when we got married!) Codependent No More (not completely applicable as my H isn't an addict, but I treated him like one)
A few more that I can't remember...
On hold at the library or at home waiting...
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work What about the kids? Raising your children before, during, and after divorce Five Love Languages
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
The bomb was my wake up call to continually work on ME.
Reading self help books. Practicing positive changes on others until habit. Interactions with MsR2C are much better after practicing new habits with others.
Massage, facials, pedicures etc are great ways to take care of ME.
Singing, dancing, laughing....
List some of yours.......
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I go get my hair done about every 4 weeks - my sister is a cosmetologist so it doesn't cost too much $$ Shopping! Buying clothes & makeup. Playing with DD Going out with my girlfriends Making plans for MY future (applied for grad school today) Starbucks, Starbucks, and more Starbucks (or Seattle's Best Coffee if I'm at Borders) Taking DD or getting takeout for us from restaurants where I could never get H to go Take DD to local events with live music and watch her enjoy it
After I have the baby I plan to do more with physical activity, and start going to the shooting range on my own... get my handgun & concealed carry permits...
And being the greenEST grass - and knowing that my H probably will never do better than me... never find someone who gets him the way I do, who has so much in common with him, who will let him be the dork he is... But knowing that I can do better
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
And being the greenEST grass - and knowing that my H probably will never do better than me... never find someone who gets him the way I do, who has so much in common with him, who will let him be the dork he is... But knowing that I can do better
Thanks for posting this, dmk. After a hard cry last night, I really needed to see this. It really is true, and helped put me back in perspective. They really WILL have a hard time doing better than us. Thanks again.
Gimme a call if you ever want to go to the range together sometime.
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
I was chatting on the phone with my H yesterday - and he was complaining about hating going to his guard drills anymore.
I offered, out of the kindness of my heart, to shoot him in the foot so that he wouldn't have to go next month
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
