I am in the mood for some fresh pasta....not sure if there is any sexual connotation to having some ravioli.....but that is what I am having for lunch....maybe i'll wash it all down with a glass of red.
Well this weekend without D8 was a little difficult. I was supposed to have her but her mom had some familyevents that she wanted to share with D8. i of course accepted without hesitation. I did spend some time with NGF and her two kids (11 and 12). I even invited them over for a bbq prior to going to see a movie. NGF had invited me but I figured that she needed a break from cooking etc.... Well, let's just say that even hough I was not a huge fan of her kids, the 4 or 5 hours we spent together without D8 present just made me realize how lucky I am. I am lucky that D8 accpets and truly is kind to NGF and is well behaved. The same can not be said about NGF's kids. She agrees....we talked about it. It is obvious that although their dad has a girlfriend, they are having difficulty with the situation. I guess what bothered me the most this weekend is not their interaction with me but there constant bickering with each other, their constant requests to their mom, their general lack of respect and mostly there mood. the only time they were happy is when they had money for the arcade prior to the movie. Don't get me wrong, I am not expecting anything but a little common courtesy with everybody present. I am not the only one who noticed, NGF grounded them both today (I went golfing.....thank God). NGF told them that there will be very little interaction for the foreseable future because she is / was "embarassed". Anyhow, I figured I would share this because even though things are going very well with NGF, there are other people involved...... I was planning to spend the first week of August with D8 NGF and her kids. That plan is definately altered. I am off to pickup D8 for the week and I will make sure I shower her with the love she deserves.
Interesting - I had been embarrased also about how my X-GF's daughter had acted in public. She had asked me if there was anything I could suggest to help her very active 5 year old daughter behave better. Besides suggesting a little more discipline with consequences, I got her a book from the library that had ideas parents could do to with children with hyperactivity problems.
One book I just picked up from the library for myself to read is called "How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk ". It sure cant hurt to find other ideas on how to better communicate with kids.
Is that the one with comic strip illustrations? I read one for teenagers and have found it to be invaluable!
Giovanni...
"Love me, love my kid(s)." A whole new dynamic in serious dating. Are you one of the first 'significant' relationships with their mom? I can only imagine how spooky it must be for them.
Well, maybe I will get that book and leave it lying around when I finish it so that someone may pick it up. I guess I can be pretty spooky..... It is not neccesarily how they act with me that bothers me but how they act in general. How they treat their mom. Love me love my kids...I have doen that once......still do love the stepdaughters in spite of the usual rough spots growing up. Maybe I am just too old for this.
xw called today to discuss D8 scheduling and schooling next year. it looks like it is full speed ahead with her and her BF (going away together)....although she did mention having lunch again...I changed the subject...not sure if she noticed. What can she tell me that she can not tell me on the phone?
