Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

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You know Sanderika, YOu have some good advice.

When my h told me about the flat tire, I did say that I was sorry and that I hope he werent late for work...he replyed "no, did you get a chance to sleep in?" So, he kinda changed the subject on me.

But I did try what you suggested. He said he was busy at work today and I carried it on further to show some interest. I said I was sorry he was so busy and how come. He said he was doing a different job, I asked was it a harder job? he replyed "no". I said well that was a good thing. Then the convo stopped.

I will try to do that more often I guess. I have tried it before, but Im afraid it just keeps me more attached to him. But I hardly ever tell him what Im doing unless he asks. Which is often.

I will take your approach on the TKD thing. I did tell H that son was interested in playing soccer or Basketball. He did say that son mentioned that so maybe he would be ok if he knew I was trying. AND I havent let on that The reason for taking him out has anything to do with the OW. But I have a feeling that is what he is going to think anyways.

Thanks.....and I do believe the reason my H wont come home is because he is scared it wont work...he doesnt want to hurt me or the kids again. He wants reassurance that it will work out.

God is blessing me sooo much!