We may have a chance after all

[dfb]

It seems like you are at H's work a lot, does he mind that??

[mockers2]

Hi Optimist - Wanted to thank you for posting on my thread. Just scanning your thread - have to get a little work done today - it sounds like you are doing very well.

Do you and your H work in the same office?

Take care ~

[NoLongerHere]

Did someone ask for an engineer?

Opt, I agree, I think you're doing well! Remember, you can't control him, and you'll never really be able to figure him out - so keep acting "as if" - and I know what a good job you can do at that! Live in the moment - don't worry about those little things and what they might mean. Think of this - what you're going to DO - your actions - aren't going to change a bit based on what they might or might not mean. Keep your DBing up!! Keep reeling him in!

My two cents anyway -

- Bill

[optimist]

Hi everybody

I am taking a minute while H and D are napping to post some more. He is in much better mood and we plan to do fondue today.

I do not work out of my H's office, but we do contract work in the same places, so we run into each other a few times a week quite naturally. I did make the mistake of never going to his office and left the field wide open for OW's ASSumptions (the we were never together, that we were getting a D, etc.) That is a mistake I fully intend not to repeat. But in all since my H moved back home on 8-17 I have only been to his office three times.

[psluke]

Hi Opt,

Glad he is in a better mood and you are going to do the fondue!

Sounds like fun.

So when do you start redecorating or changing things around in the office?

[optimist]

Give me the money, not the advice Just joking. But the time will come.

Smells of fondue (with kirsch...)

[psluke]

And the Gracious 'Lady of the Manor' sweeps in to place her mark upon the office and stamp it and her h as HER territory!!

So what are you drinking to go with fondue making?

[Trying24now]

Opt
Ummmm...how about the progress I got in two months? From July till Sept....I watched the iceman of 2001-2003 begin to melt right before my eyes....that's how it happens, suddenly, for seemingly no reason it just does.
T2

[optimist]

The left over Condesa de Leganza. We even had fireworks (I filled the alcohol burner too much -then H added some more: and we had blue flames all over. Thanks god for granite counters and tile floor!)

I have left over dark chocolate fondue with cream, cherry kirsch and strawberries... Any takers?

Yes, congrats on your success T2. You can have fondue too.

[totite]

Hi Optimist. Just caught up on your thread and thought I would lend you some support after all you have done for me. Man, what a roller coaster ride you are on! I agree with making your mark at H's office. Make it uncomfortable for the OW to keep up her fantasy and help her get closer to the door. Has your D4 visited daddy lately at the office? Does her artwork (pictures of her family) hang on his wall? What about getting a portrait taken of his girls and framing it for his office - to be seen prominently by all who enter. I know my kids love to visit daddy and have given him photos and drawings, etc.

As you tell me often, keep up your PMA. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that this too shall pass when something is bugging you. And don't dwell on things out of your control - it will make you wacky! (or more wacky than usual LOL!) I would add something in German, but don't want to get that started again!

Take my advice - demolishing a wall is a great stress reliever!

Enjoy the fondue - I love strawberries and chocolate!