The last time (which I thought was the last time!) I went to an Afrikaans NGK church to find out what my wife saw. Couldn't understand much of it even though I've been here in Cape Town for 21 years. I met with the priest over the course of a few weeks. In the last session he thought I better be prepared to move on.
I didn't go back for any more chats BUT I DID go back with my wife arm in arm a few weeks later where I took great pride in introducing her to him.
I think he saw a miracle.
I just need to help this miracle along by changing me and by keeping my faith, the faith in my wife and faith in SOMEONE up there that seems to be doing his/her very best for us.