Oh, I think the boys need much more info on HOW to do all the stuff they are told to do. How do you make time for just the two of you when babies need so much? When W is hormonal? When finances are strapped? How do you as the H, take a back seat position in some ways and bridge the huge gap between most men and women (post baby) without coming off as jealous and competitive of your children? How do you take the lead on making that time rather than complaining about it or just stuffing it down? How do you make sure you and W are in reality about your expectations of marriage, finances and each other?
Many women complain that their H's are like children who add to the burden rather than reduce it. How you find an authentic and healthy way to be a team is, as of yet, a mystery to me. I can tell you when H and I were on, I loved it, feeling I had some one to volley to and that we had a rhythm and were looking out for each other (that would last about a week max :/)...I don't think he liked it so much (too much responsibility, not exciting enough??)
Lots to ponder but I would resist being simplistic. Men in particular need more "how to"...
