I believe many of us would say our spouses, or STBXSs are not the same person we married, nor are we. Although the thought of a divorce was originally devastating, I now realize it would have NEVER worked with her.
I believe at the end of the day, I am a BETTER person for having gone through this. Most of you will validate how crazy my STBX really is, but I had issues too. If we don't reflect on OUR part in the demise of the marriages, then we have wasted all of this grief. I want to thank my STBX for allowing me to be reflective and to be a better communicator and potential partner to someone else.
Now, here's the latest twist from STBX. She wants to take me to court for contempt.
When I returned from Iraq in July 2008, I moved out in August of 2008. D18 was headed off to college in September. STBX took care of all tuition payment issues. We had no written agreement on any money I would giver her, but from August 08 until February 09, I gave her $33,280. If you remove the $1200 that would be my share of tuition, this still left her with $3826 a month for support and alimony. I cut back her payments in January and February and she took me to court for a Pendente Lite Settlement. I then began to give her $3500 month in support AND $1200 a month for D18's tuition I agreed to in court.
WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL......June rolls around, and her attorney sent my attorney a letter saying I was $6000 behind in college payments.
Apparently STBX thinks that NONE of the college funds came all the money I gave her from August 2008 until February of 2009. Her point is that my "formalized contribution to D18's college only began in March.
