total quarter life mlc

[Sanderika]

One of the things H told me this week that he has appreciated (he thanked me, too) the most was me leaving him completely alone, not consulting him or contacting him for anything. I left him to solve his own problems. By distancing myself and son from H showed H I am independant and self sufficient. It showed him I don't need him, rather want him.

I didn't keep him in the loop, I removed H from my life. I engaged H kindly and logically and lovingly when H reached out to me only.

In 47 months I only gave H anger twice. Once for a social occasion we attended together 20 months post bomb and it was because H invited me to go and then treated me like a germ. He was rude and insulting in front of others. I ended up leaving the function and sitting in the car the rest of the evening. H heard plenty about that. The 2nd time was when H removed me from the company. I only blew up once for each and never brought up either incident again.

I raised my son alone. I have not asked H for money, I have learned to live without. I maintain my home inside and out alone. If there is something I can't fix I ask someone other than H for help.

It has taken time, approx. 42 months for H to see reality and what he has left. When I say time and patience I mean it.

After our conversation, I am not certain we will D. It was very honest and informative. I am going to post more about it on my thread. I haven't felt well this week so I will get to it. Our meeting was Monday night. We talked from 11:00pm to 3:00am. Wierd hours, I know, it's the timing and when they want to talk. Men won't talk unless they want to and are ready.

Again, leave H alone....don't give in. Engage him on son only for a while. Let H humble himself and be deserving of more from you. Keep up the PMA and Sex Appeal. Be the greener grass from a distance. It is very attractive. Know the whole time H is watching you. I heard it from the horses mouth this week. He's always watching you even from a distance. He's keeping track of your independance and actions and emotions.

Do the unexpected!!!!

More Hugs for you today, mdoodles. Let us know what the L tells you to do next.

Sanderika