Any interest she shows in Retrouvaille is a positive thing, and it will definitely be a plus if she agrees to go. I went about 3 weeks ago but they never did a prescreen call with us. My wife has an ongoing EA with OM who has had extreme marital troubles for years, so they lean on each other for comfort. We got an email from the Retrouvaille organizer which said they ENCOURAGE the ending of any third party relationships, but don't say it is a deal breaker for attending.
Retro is an extremely powerful experience and will help you make great strides in opening up to one another and building effective communication, but don't expect a miracle to occur on the weekend. They emphasize that the 6 4-hour weekly "post" meetings are as important if not more so than the weekend itself. If your wife has an ongoing OM relationship it will definitely dampen the effectiveness and may even cause some discouragement on your part, but it still is worthwhile. My wife communicated via email with the OM during the weekend, which was tough to take, but she felt open enough to show me the communication, which I took as positive, rightly or not. You just have to plow forward and be patient to "let it work".
Just a little FYI to help you set expectations. Hopefully she will take the step to attend. Good luck.
Last edited by pigskin; 07/16/0902:09 PM.
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