You know, a person could write a book about all this.
Oh, wait, a person is writing a book about all this. A Smiley's Person.
So here's the dealio, Cool Cats and Kool Kittens: I'm going to start pitching this book at agents, unwritten save for 2 sample chapters, which is generally not the way things are done, but I'm going to strike while the iron is hot (sorry Michele ).
What I've observed is that the Lion's Share of books about "surviving your divorce" are pitched at women (I'm not talking about either the MWD books or the "how-to" books -- how to have a great divorce, etc.). So mine is really going to be the Guy Book about this process (Hemingway said write what you know -- I know GuyStuff).
My question, to the Lads and the Ladies, is this: What should Guys know? Before they were WAHs, what did your H's do that consistently vexed you, dear Ladies of DB? Before they were WAW's, good Lads, where did you fall short of your W's needs and expectations?
In other words, if you could -- pace AlexEN's recent musings -- say "one thing" to a potential future LBH, what would that thing be?
And -- and -- good Lads, what should your fellow Dudes know about this process, this journey in which we have lamentably become fellow pilgrims?
Should the book be optioned, should it be published, I will give you all credit, by screen name (or, if you desire in the alt, by real name), for your contributions and your inspiration.
“God, that sitteth heighe in magestee, Save al this compaignye, grete and smale!”
(from "The Reeve's Tale" in Geoffrey Chaucer, The Canterbury Tales, c. 1390)
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