Puppy,

Thanks for the advice. I am sure it is spot on. She said to me regarding her pleas to not bring in evidence of the affair:

"You know how to fix this" ... I think that sums up our marriage, me fixing things for her.

My question is when she continues to say all she wants is out and I am asking you to not bring in the affair because you know I won't get alimony.

How do I respond?

I have been saying "I don't want a divorce and I am not willing to discuss this" or something to that affect.

Me 38 / W 37
M 14 yrs
S 11/S8
First Bomb: 3/6/2009 EA
Second Bomb: 6/4/2009 PA
Same House
Separate Rooms