You know, although there is an unwritten script for them, there is one for us too...well, not THAT unwritten, cause some of it is.
This is the time for you, and whatever you are feeling, YOU have to own that, and deal with that for yourself. You cannot bottle that up and NOT deal with it.
Anger? You have to process that, and you will have that on many levels throughout this process. It is actually a healthy thing to have on your side. Us it as a shield. Use it to protect yourself and deflect all of the BS that gets spewed at you. Now is not the time to use it as a sword....it can do you NO good by doing that ( Almost, listen up there ).
That shield will become your best friend for some time. Later, when you feel you need the sword, you will realize that the it has turned into a nail file and is less harmful. That is because you processed that anger and turned it into something good for you instead of harmful to your relationship.
I see a common theme here the past couple weeks...and it is ANGER....
Anger can hurt you and your chances faster than anything else right now....it has to be processed.
Write a letter, release it in writing....DO NOT send it to your spouse, but write it out, and email it to a friend, mail it to your dog, spray paint it on your neighbor's van....something. But get it out....
Keep enough to shield your self and throw the rest away....
And please....( Almost ).....use the 48 hour rule.....
Interaction out of anger is harmful to you....
Don't let an anger filled tirade turn into a regret
