Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

I was so livid I couldn't speak last night.

Once again, W has been acting strange, and once again I snooped, and once again I found a who list of provocotive emails...

This time to and from 2 different men.

One of them is OM2 mentioned last week - who seems to be using every trick in the book to pursue my W - teasing, cajoling, on and on. He is a client of hers, so by playing along she is being completely unprofessional.

And the other, believe it or not, is the boyfriend of my W's BFF (toxic, divorced BFF). This is the man with whom TDBFF had the affair that ended HER marriage. He seems to have spent the afternoon coming on to and pursuing my W, even to the point of coming to the house here. I can't believe she would do this to her best friend! How disloyal can you be?

Un-F___ing Believable!

I blew up! Completely!
I told her that I was done!
I told her I did not want her for my W! That my self respect would not allow me to stay married to her under these conditions.

She try to get angry at me for snooping. I would not let her go there.

She tried to excuse it ("We don't really have a marriage, if we had a real R then..."). I told her that the state of our M and the lack of improvement was a choice she had made, don't try to blame her actions on the M.

She tried to minimize it ("It's just flirting. I've always been a flirt, now texting just makes it easier") She is being an unbelievable child! She sounded like a petulant teenager.

She tried to threaten me with D ("I could be having sex with anyone right now. We live in a no-fault state, I could have a D as soon as I want it"). I told her that yes, she is an adult, and can choose to have flirt or have sex with whomever she chooses - but she can not do it and be married to me at the same time" I said "If you want a D, then let's get started")

She tried to blame it all on me - on how horrible I had always been, etc. Here I just listened.


In the end she withdrew and said. I am just tired and disgusted by it all. I don't know what I want. I don't know if I want to work on the M.

I told her "You have been saying "I don't know what I want" and "I don't know if I can work on the M" for 8 months now. I am not asking you to commit to the M long term, but I am asking you to commit to working on the M; to stopping all this screwing around flirting with other men, and really work on the M. If you can't do that, then the M is dead anyway, and we should just start taking it apart."

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I am sick of this.